41 Years Lost

41 Years Lost

Ellen “Ellie” Starer, 78

Hailing from Philadelphia, the “City of Brotherly Love,” Ellie has always inherently felt that love is love. She has loved men. She has loved women. But after graduating college, launching a professional career, marrying and having children, Ellie finally shed her concern for public judgment and entered midlife openly as a lesbian. Maturity and changing societal norms had given her the confidence she needed to finally be herself. As a psychotherapist over many decades, Ellie has worked with LGBTQ+ people, some teens. Standing with them, she has consistently told them that they were OK; it was society that was not OK.